This is a list of things we tell ourselves to make us depressed, anxious, guilty or angry.
1. ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING
You see things in black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.
3. MENTAL FILTER
You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that discolors the entire beaker of water.
4. DISQUALIFYING THE POSITIVE
You reject positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or another. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
5. JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS
You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your
Mind Reading: You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you, and you don’t bother to
check this out.
The Fortune Teller Error: You anticipate that things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your
prediction is an already established fact.
6. MAGNIFICATION (CATASTROPHIZING) OR MINIMIZATION
You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof-up or someone else’s achievement) or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the other fellow’s imperfections). This is also called the “binocular trick.”
7. EMOTIONAL REASONING
You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel it, therefore it
must be true.”
8. SHOULD STATEMENTS
You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.
9. LABELING AND MISLABELING
This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.” When someone else’s behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to him: “He’s a goddam louse.” Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded.
You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which in fact you were not primarily responsible for.
~ From The Feeling Good Handbook, by David D. Burns, M.D. ~